Cybersex is a term for becoming sexually gratified from another person, (mostly anonymous), over the internet. Normally this means that two or more people are chatting, IM-ing, or just communicating via the internet in order to achieve sexual climax. Chat rooms, cam sites, forums, social media, even email can be used to have anonymous virtual sex over the internet. So what does this mean for people in a relationship? Is this considered “cheating” or being unfaithful to your significant other? Even if there is no physical aspect to the sex? In order to answer that, there are a couple of factors to look at first.
First off, this kind of sexual experience doesn’t involve physical contact at all. So if couples have that as a definition, then it doesn’t constitute “cheating.” However, due to the intimate nature of the act, there are many couples who do consider this to be an unfaithful act. Because it is still a sexual experience, it is still crossing the line into “cheating” and can be very destructive toward any relationship. So any act of “cheating” is defined by both partners in a relationship. Therefore individual couples will need to decided what they consider to be unfaithfulness
Next we’ll look at how cybersex can also be destructive on both libido and sexual nature. Cybersex by its nature can have some negative effects on one’s libido. Because it’s virtual, there are far more sexual avenues you can take. This means that you can really travel down any path that is a turn on to you. For that matter, there are few things that are “off limits” sexually. Normally in physical sex, if your partner doesn’t like it, then it is hard to convince them to do something. In cybersex however, even if the other person wouldn’t be OK with an act in person, they can still perform it with anonymity without feeling guilt. Both of these things can ruin sex in real life though. By getting exactly what you need to climax online, you either feel little need to have sexual experiences with real people, or even can’t due to how “vanilla” the sex would be.
Pornographic material can do the same thing to a person’s libido. It intensifies it to a point that it becomes unhealthy, and then they expect the same stuff they see in the pornography in real life. Then when it’s not enough with a physical partner, they have to turn back to their pornographic materials, thus becoming an addiction. Cybersex is at its basest form, interactive pornography. Only it’s normally in a chat/text setting, instead of video material.
Cybersex is definitely different for everybody. There is no one “rule” that can constitute whether it’s “cheating” or even unhealthy. However it certainly can become a source for addiction, the same way almost anything can. The best thing you can do is discuss it with your partner, and make sure to take it in moderation. Otherwise it can affect you in a series of ways.